Change is inevitable!
I recently moved home to Charlotte, NC from Florida where I have filled my soul for 8 years with the OCEAN. God nudged me for a while, but this time he pushed. There were so many reasons for this CHANGE: my mom is aging, my little senior dogs are aging, I have so missed my support system and I need my family as much as they need me. There have been so many emotions pretty much daily through this, so I am writing this for me as much as I am for you.
How do we deal with major life changes?
It’s been said that the only thing constant in life is change. People change, circumstances change, things change. Change can be small, big, subtle or sudden. Sometimes it’s a breeze, other times it’s a painful process.
Change may be a choice we make, or it may be imposed on us. A new job, getting married, starting a family, moving house — these are examples of life changes we may experience. Some people view change as a positive challenge; others fret and agonize over the consequences of new situations. Few of us deal with change without feeling unruffled, so here are some tips on dealing with change more effectively.
*Adjusting To Change Takes Time: be patient
*Dealing With Change: Emotions will be stirred up when you feel overwhelmed. Let yourself laugh, cry or feel moody about it. Change often involves a degree of loss, so it’s OK to grieve a little and feel nostalgic.
*Change is Inevitable: Don’t Take It Personally
*Change happens: That’s life. It’s got nothing to do with you. Don’t obsess over who’s to blame or why it happened.
*Embrace Change by Going with the Flow: easier said then done guys
*Seek Support, Don’t Go at It Alone: Talk to your friends and family. Share your problems with people you trust. Others may offer a different angle to the situation, which might help you make better decisions.
*Focus on the Positive Aspects of Change: If you keep looking at the bad side of things, you might miss the good. The glass is also half full, remember?
*Break Up a Problem When You Feel Overwhelmed: A large problem will seem less insurmountable when divided into little ones. Work on them one at a time, and give yourself a pat on the back each time you overcome one.
*Make Good Choices: With new experiences, we grow wiser and stronger. Wisdom helps us make better decisions in future.
*Have Balance, Spend Time with Friends and Family: It’s important to have a personal life to fall back on to help you through tough times. Take time to be with your friends and family when you feel overwhelmed.
The new circumstances will eventually become familiar: No matter how big or difficult, change comes to an end when the new circumstances are in place and become familiar. Normality will return. I am talking to me and YOU!
Keep Smiling guys, it helps.